Deciding Who Is Navigating Your Life - Recognizing Your Subconscious Mind

Is it possible to change an old program stored in our subconscious mind? How can we reach something that we are not even aware of having? In moments when the subconscious mind is in the driver seat, who are you in the backseat observing the whole situation?


Starting in our earliest childhood, we use our senses to experience and learn about ourselves and the world we live in. Based on what we see, feel, smell, taste, and hear, we begin to categorize what is confronting us through our own perspective. If something appears pleasant to us we categorize it as safe, good and desirable. We want more of that. On the other hand, if something threatens our safety, or appears unpleasant to us, we immediately categorize it as unsafe, dangerous, bad, and we try to avoid the same situation at all cause. It is a safety mechanism helping us to survive and make choices that seem more favorable. We see the world from OUR perspective based on our first experiences in life. In a way, through our senses we all live in our own made up world. We decide what is good or bad, what we want more of and what we would like to avoid. For example, a person growing up in a nurturing and stable home has a whole different perspective on relationships and safety than a child growing up in a disruptive and violent upbringing. Over the years, they may change and expand their perspective, but their first experience is already locked in deeply into their subconscious mind.




The subconscious mind stores all of our past experiences, and has locked up and categorized our memories based upon our first encounter with it. It is locked into a place based on our first perspective. We begin to live life based on the rules and programs we have created for ourselves. We decided what is safe and what is not. As we grow older, this way of living, of following repeated patterns becomes our habits, and our habits shape our characteristics. We are then becoming someone based on what our experience in the past has taught us. Whether we are aware of our habits or not, they play an important part of how we show up in the world. It is like getting into character in a movie or putting on our armor to protect ourselves from any potential harm we might encounter in our relationships, in our workplace, in our life. We walk around with a set idea of what is good and what is bad without truly experiencing new impressions for what they are. We live within our very own limitations we have set for ourselves.

Our subconscious mind is hard at work telling us what is acceptable and what we must avoid. Our reactions to any given situation are a direct indicator and a window to our subconscious mind carrying on for us.




Have you ever experienced yourself in an argument saying something that was “out of character” and later you were wondering where that came from? It comes from your subconscious mind in the driver seat. The question then is, if the subconscious mind is the driver seat in those moments, then who are you in the backseat observing the whole situation without much control in that moment? Think back of a moment when you experienced a moment where you reacted to something spontaneously and then later felt that this did not seem like you at all. In the moment while you were reacting, things just seemed to happen without much thought. Words poured out of you, for example, and later as you became aware of your actions you felt regret over what was said or done. In that moment of reflection, it is as if there are two of you. One, the observer, and the other one the actor of a play you have just witnessed.


We call both parts YOU and there are no excuses for our actions. However, it is important to recognize that when we feel out of control it is because our subconscious mind is navigating us as best as it can, following a program we have set many years ago. We do not consciously remember all the programs we have chosen but our sensory system has helped us navigate through the ups and downs in our lives by storing all our experiences as either desirable or undesirable. Most people speak and act from a place of their own past. The subconscious mind is in the driver seat, or if you refer to my previous two blog posts, the subconscious mind is the navigational guide on your mind map. It tells you where it is safe and what places you should avoid.




We need to remember that the subconscious mind is not our enemy and does not take things personally. It simply follows a set program. That program is stored deep within each of us. In my last two blog posts I have compared our mind to a treasure map and our programs from our past are hidden somewhere on our map. It might be called the secret forest or simply, the subconsciousness. We are not victims to this programming. We are not helpless, not able to control the direction we would like to pursue. Just the way we have set up a program in our earliest childhood, we can create new programs and even override our old programs. If we want to materialize our dream life and we feel stuck, we need to explore why. We need to find our place on our map and then change direction if we do not like the path we are going.